I’m hearing a lot of talk about molestation and child abuse, and would like to challenge everyone to argue less about details we don’t know and talk more about what we can all agree on: how to prevent it.
Talking to your kids about body safety, which may feel awkward at first but should still be heard in a trusted relationship, helps prevent abuse or end it if it does happen.
More resources (the first link is short & easy to start using the very practical tips):
I’m going to share this graphic and the links on threads where the conversation is happening. Let’s put the current heartbreaking news stories to good use by getting this information out there – I guarantee people who need to read it are on those threads!
And if you or someone you know have already suffered abuse, please know first that it was/is NOT YOUR FAULT. Someone touched you when you didn’t want them to (even if your body felt good when they did), and that is NOT okay. Please call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) or chat anonymously at https://ohl.rainn.org/online/.
(image thanks to The Mama Bear Effect)
Just found my 4yo teaching my 2yo colors.
He “baked” Legos in their play kitchen, then asked which one she wanted.
“Orange,” she said, and he picked up a block. “No, orange!” she corrected, until he found the right one.
He knew yellow, but needed help again with pink.
Talk about play-based learning!
My husband and 4yo daughter have been building an earthen oven for weeks now. It’s pretty messy work, and today she dumped a pile of sand all over the ground.
“Oops!” she called out, “Well, that’s okay. We’re a learning family, and I made a mistake, but now I learned!”
I’ve never used that exact wording, so it feels really good to hear that she’s absorbing those messages! <3
She was feeling kind of bad about herself this morning.
“I’m so tiny,” my 4yo lamented, “I can’t cook eggs or pancakes by myself, and I can’t see the caterpillars unless you pick me up!”
I reflected, “you feel like you are so tiny,” and tried to encourage her to think of good things about being small, but she didn’t really want me to fix it for her… she just wanted to be heard and understood.
An hour later, playing outside while I did some yard work, I moved a tarp and uncovered slugs crawling all over the bottom. She was watching me, as usual, and immediately jumped into action, “saving” the slugs by relocating them so they wouldn’t end up in the garage.
I went about other chores while she completed her mission. Once satisfied no slugs would end up shriveled in the heat of the garage, she ran back to me triumphantly. “Mama! Maybe I’m not so tiny.”
When it comes to heart, dear, I think not. Not tiny at all.
(And now *I* am off to rescue slugs from the bath she just announced for them!!)
She decided (after hearing of an older kid challenging himself to ride 100 miles this summer) to ride her bike 4 minutes a day for 60 day She is 4, after all, and it really is a challenge for her! Ii’m excited that she’s setting her own goals and discovering on her own how capable she is.
What are your kids planning for this summer? Any life skills being learned or developed?